When we commit ourselves to personal growth, we also commit to removing negativity from our lives. This has been something that I’ve been reflecting on and its been weighing heavily on me because it’s made me recognize instances where I have been the toxic person in a relationship. In hindsight, I can see how I’ve projected my own insecurities onto a person I care about, effectively ruining the relationship. BUT, now that I can see how their actions were justified, there comes a peace knowing that I’m able to recognize this negativity in me. I can learn from it, grow from it, and maybe even find closure for that lost relationship. It’s now also easier to make this very same decision for myself, because it’s clearer to me that it’s not a personal attack, but an act of self-preservation. This doesn’t make it any less painful, but I’ve slowly come to accept that you can care for people and love them from afar.