Accepting Growth

Accepting Growth
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It can be difficult to accept other people’s growth, especially when they’ve wronged us in any way. But just like we can grow and evolve, some others can too. With that evolution may come apologies and forgiveness. 
This doesn’t mean we must accept the hurt—we don’t. Accepting an apology is not the same as forgiveness. You can refuse an apology, sever ties, or distance yourself from someone and still forgive them. It also doesn’t matter whether the offender knows it. Forgiveness is for you. 
Apologies on the other hand, require the offender to first acknowledge the offense and hurt. Accepting that apology gives them some type of relief and puts them somewhat at ease. 
Then there are others who may not need to forgive, accept/ deny and apology, or revisit the incident to get some type of closure to move on. 
We are all unique, and it’s for that reason that we also can’t blame others for not accepting our apologies or forgiving us. As the offenders, we have no say or control over another’s response. What we do have control over is genuinely trying to make amends. We must also demonstrate remorse and work to earn that trust back. If our apology is accepted, we need to be grateful and know they had a right to refuse it. Ensure the offense doesn’t happen again. Sometimes relationships can’t be saved whether or not an effort was made. Accepting growth also means accepting distance and rejection. But no matter the outcome, it’s always best to pause for just a moment and reflect on your own growth before rejecting anyone else’s.