Setting boundaries to protect your well-being is necessary. But people don’t respect them. And I’ve learned that sometimes it’s not a conscious decision to overstep your boundaries. People simply forget or aren’t thinking. Because here’s the thing with boundaries: They’re a hard limit for YOU. They’re important to YOU, and it’s your responsibility to enforce them as many times as necessary. It’s like having a bruise on your arm. Your arm has always been there, but now there’s this bruise, so you set a boundary and you’re careful to not hurt it or let people touch it. But we all have that person who keeps bumping into you and accidentally touching it. In most cases, they’re doing it out of habit. Your arm is nothing new— the person may even be accustomed to having access to it, but now there’s a big bruise. So you’re going to keep reminding them not to touch it as long as it’s there, right? Same thing. If you have set boundaries to protect yourself, why are you giving ownership of those boundaries to the person they’re for? This is essentially what we’re doing if we stay silent when those lines are crossed.